When I was in school and college, most of my friends thought that I would be the first, or one of the first to get married and settled down. In fact, at some point, even I thought I will get married soon after my graduation and have kids, all before I hit 30. But the reality turns out to be far different than I expected.
When I was doing my degree, my whole life seems to have been set before me. I was doing a professional course, had a steady (or what looked like a steady) relationship, had great friends and a wonderful college life. It's no wonder why I thought that I will be settled happily right after my college...and why not...when everything seemed picture perfect back then.
But precisely a year later, I broke up with my boyfriend, I turned to a recluse, my grades fell apart so much so that I felt even my life was falling apart. Thanks to a few notable friends who stayed strong with me, I managed to pull myself together and went on with life. But as far as relationship was concerned, I realized that I cannot possibly settled for lesser than I deserve. And that made me choosy.
Don't jump to conclusions. I wasn't expecting a man with a huge bank account, who drives huge cars and live in mansions. No, far from it. I was actually expecting someone who was matured in mind, a man who was responsible and who came up in life on his own. Someone who values his family and mine and who respects me enough as a woman and an individual. And I thought my expectations were simple and easy to be fulfilled. But boy was I wrong!
Every guy I met were either egoistical, materialistic or judgmental. Okay, I'm exaggerating but they all do seem that way to me. I just realized that I couldn't share the same wave length with them. My friends tried to set me up with a few guys, my mom tried to do the same, even I tried to set myself to meet a few guys on my own accord but seriously, nothing was materializing. After some time, I thought that probably my expectations were too high but despite all that, I knew I couldn't settled with someone who lacks the value that I was expecting. But no doubt that peer pressure was ticking in. All my friends were getting married, my mom was getting worried and I was getting frustrated. No so much because I wasn't getting married but because I was tired of answering people who thought that I was avoiding marriage. But how do you explain to people that you can't exactly get hitched to just anyone?
But my prayers were finally answered when I finally met him. That's when I knew that the wait was worth it. Yes, I was 30 when I finally met him but it feels like I was born again. I didn't care what people have to talk about my non-announcement of marriage, I didn't care that people were bitching how I was being choosy, I didn't care that people were indicating that I was not capable of attracting men. Because nothing that people say will ever make a difference to me now. I found the right one and I'm ready to move forward in life, to share my love and life with absolutely no regrets. All because I know I found the right one.
So yes, if you have expectation on how your Mr or Miss Right to be should be like, then don't give up until you have found them. And ignore all those talks about you getting too old to find men. Marriage is not about getting married at the right age. All that matters is that you get married to the right person!
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